Author: Creflo Dollar
Have you ever been in a discussion with a co–worker and found yourself in disagreement or opposition to their opinions? Moments like these expand your mind and help you grow, or they test your love walk. Disagreements are inevitable; you’re never going to agree with others all the time. The important thing is to refrain from being reckless with your words, or acting contrary to the love of God and His Word.
The first and great commandment of the Lord, Jesus Christ is the commandment to love. “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbor as thyself”
(Luke 10:27). When you are in a disagreement with someone, there is a strong temptation to get angry and allow strife to enter the relationship. Don’t let it happen. If you find yourself getting offended, step away before you end up burning a bridge with that person.
Learning to walk in love helps you grow. However, when the flesh rears its ugly head, it’s easy to forget about love. Our challenge is to avoid acting in ways that don’t reflect God’s character. What does it mean to walk in the flesh? Simply put, it is walking in opposition to the Word. Galatians 5:17 (New International Version) declares, “For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want.”
The flesh, that old, carnal mindset, wants to get your adrenaline pumping and your emotions out of control. During times of disagreement, it says, “I’m right, and I need you to acknowledge that fact” or “I don’t want to forget about our argument until you apologize.” You overcome the flesh by aligning your thinking, actions and words with the Word of God.
It’s okay to disagree; sometimes situations in life require having in–depth discussions. However, the Bible says, “It is an honor for a man to cease from strife and keep aloof from it, but every fool will quarrel” (Proverbs 20:3, The Amplified Bible). Don’t allow disagreements to turn into emotional conflicts or opportunities for strife. Declare victory for yourself in this area by not allowing your emotions to steer you away from what the Word commands.
Emotions like anger and unforgiveness are not of God. By no means does He want you so consumed with your feelings that you miss the chance to release Him into the life of another person. Giving in to your emotions demonstrates that your focus is on self rather than others. Instead, your primary concern should be another’s welfare, and being a good witness for God. Resolving conflict the right way is your opportunity to spread His love!
Words have power. The Bible declares life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). When you speak words that reveal the love of God, you make a way for God’s presence to overshadow the works of the enemy in any situation. However, operating in the flesh will cause you to be unwise with your words; you will end up saying something that causes you to offend your brother or sister. Before you allow that to happen, take a “time out” to consult the Holy Spirit for wisdom on what to say. He will always show you how to respond the right way.
Use the love of God to mend fences when you and another person are in strife. When using love as a means to repair relationships, you will have to fight your flesh. Remember, your flesh wants its own way. Put your feelings aside, and don’t allow the enemy to create confusion and destroy your fellowship with the other person. How you handle disagreements makes the difference between you and the person who doesn’t know God, and will serve as a testimony to others. Be a Christian who makes a difference in your relationships by taking the love route every time.